Attached

Getting attached to our views and opinions only leads to conflict with others and suffering within. When our ego gets involved and we become attached to our views we become them and the ego will literally fight to death in the extreme to avoid being wrong. We no longer hear the other person, we go into a defence mode that means we will do almost anything to make sure we are right and the other is wrong…win at all costs.

When attachment is there then comes the reaction, the emotions, the anger and the victim/punisher mode towards others becomes activated if the other person is in disagreement. We feel it inside, we pump adrenaline and cortisol into our bodies and as it is a verbal battle, normally not physical, then the argument causes damage to us both mentally and physically as the chemicals are not released. All this suffering and cost to ourselves and others just to defend a simple temporary mental construct of our mind, a view.

It does not mean we can not have a view on something, it simply means to not make our views personal in terms of our story and not to attach anything to them. Then there is no need to defend anything or be right. When we accept contrary view points and others, when we accept that our views are just an opinion and that we do not need to be right, then we can present our view from a position of inner calm and then the other person will reflect that and will not feel the need to be defensive or react.

Peace within leads to peace outside and that can not happen all the time we are attached to our views and our ego.

Shutdown

When we have a period where we are lacking energy or enthusiasm for something, rather than fight it, embrace it.

It is a sign to take a break, do something different or actually do nothing.

The challenge comes when we resist it and fight our own body. That only ends up one way, not being well physically and mentally. We get stuck in a downward spiral of resistance and fighting that leads to becoming more exhausted and on edge.

Our conditioning says ‘soldier on’, ‘keep going’ and ‘don’t give up’…all these are ‘macho’ themes of the ego.

We all need to pause, stop for a while, refresh and take care of ourselves and as soon as we feel it, just go with it, relax and shutdown. While we are relaxing, newness comes and we can then take on fresh opportunities without feeling run down and exhausted. Our light from within shines again.