A vicious circle of guilt

We have leisure time and while we watch a film, read a book, go for a walk, go to the cinema, see friends and so on we think about the tasks, chores, work etc we didn’t complete during the non-leisure working time.

Then we get to work, to our tasks, actions and so on and we resent the fact that we did not get relaxed and good leisure time, so we auto-sabotage our work and then the cycle continues because when it’s play time again, we feel guilty.

Often this is on auto-repeat through our lives.

How can we stop this?

Four things I have found that can help. Firstly set a shutdown time at which point work stops whatever until the next morning. Secondly, because of the shutdown, and once we learn to relax, we can separate work and play. Thirdly, when we are working remember the guilt feeling and focus on only the work that is super important first. Lastly, take small simple steps at work that are easy to complete and are not onerous or feel like a chore, that means we’re more likely to do it.

Simple, eh! Well as always it is a journey of getting even better and work in progress.

Four books I’d recommend for this would be Cal Newport’s Deep Work, Neil Fiore’s The Now Habit, Darren Hardy’s The Compound Effect and finally Brian Tracy’s Eat That Frog.

23:00

I’m sat in the car at 23:00 waiting to pick my son up and listening to Bob Marley and writing today’s blog.

There is always time to get something done in the day even if you’ve left it late.

The things we want to do, we always get them done, even if it’s right on the wire.

The thing is to only do the things you really want to.