Winning

It is better to step away, let go and not seek to ‘win’. There does not have to be a ‘right’ or ‘wrong’.

Winning is a game of the ego, where there is a position to defend and losing is a catastrophe for the fragile ego. This often leads to a ‘win at all costs’ approach…whatever that might lead us to do or say. We attach so much to winning that we are too afraid to let go.

The challenge with winning is the cost and the damage both short and long term for you and the loser.

In the short-term, winning may feel good, like a bar of chocolate does, but after there is the down side, seeing what it cost and how it affected the ‘loser’. That in turn has a negative affect on us.

It doesn’t mean you can not have a view, or say what you feel, it is however, just your view and not worth the violence mentally and/or physically that winning inflicts.

There isn’t an answer

By Philip Dodson

The less we know, the happier and more peaceful we can be.

The human mind is obsessed with having to know, needing an answer, a definitive…yet knowing doesn’t always bring peace or joy and the pain of not knowing causes suffering too. The more we seek certainty through answers, the more suffering we cause ourselves as the beauty of life is the uncertainty of this moment and what we can choose to do or not. If everything was certain, then there is no life.

Better to accept that there does not have to be answer, we do not need to know. Be happy and grateful for all that is and do not waste moments or a life wondering what the answer is…accept that for many things, there isn’t answer.