True love and decisions

True love is unconditional.

When we come to making decisions, if we choose to look down a lens that is based on love, then we are very unlikely to go too far wrong.

Sure there is a time to make decisions based on rational logic, but those aren’t the important decisions in life.

Making decisions out of love is based on relationships with the people and if we focus on what makes them special to us, then it is easy to be unconditional.

Then it is easier to make a decision about our interactions and reactions.

It’s a challenge as we are conditioned very differently, we are taught to judge, to criticise, to look for fault, for blame.

Let’s choose to look for love.

Do to ourselves what we’d do to others

We would happily be kind, loving, supportive, compassionate and empathetic to a loved one, a close friend, even to just anyone.

Yet when it comes to ourselves we seem to struggle with this.

Think how we often speak unkindly to ourselves and then think of a person who truly matters to us, would we speak like that?

How we speak to ourselves is a choice, however, it has a huge impact on us. No one ever feels good about being unkind to themselves. Nothing is gained from it ever. So why not choose to be kind to ourselves?

Do to ourselves what we would do to someone who matters to us, as surely, we matter to ourselves.

If you haven’t tried it and you are fed up with anger, frustration and beating yourself up, try some love, kindness, understanding and putting an arm around yourself. After all, you have nothing to lose by trying.