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Burden free

Posted on by philipdodson

When we place expectation on ourselves and others, we place a burden and the greater the expectation, the greater the burden and the greater the disappointment for us when we or others do not meet the expected level.

Equally, when we do something with a motive attached, say we open the door solely to look good and then expect a ‘thank you’ only to be disappointed by not getting it. We do things with strings attached.

If we act from our soul, from our feelings, and we simply be, then we suffer no burden within or disappointment. We equally spare the burden for others too. If we set no expectation of ourselves and others, we are free.

Just doing what we feel without anything attached is the best way to enjoy a guilt, an expectation and a burden-free life.

Winning

Posted on by philipdodson

It is better to step away, let go and not seek to ‘win’. There does not have to be a ‘right’ or ‘wrong’.

Winning is a game of the ego, where there is a position to defend and losing is a catastrophe for the fragile ego. This often leads to a ‘win at all costs’ approach…whatever that might lead us to do or say. We attach so much to winning that we are too afraid to let go.

The challenge with winning is the cost and the damage both short and long term for you and the loser.

In the short-term, winning may feel good, like a bar of chocolate does, but after there is the down side, seeing what it cost and how it affected the ‘loser’. That in turn has a negative affect on us.

It doesn’t mean you can not have a view, or say what you feel, it is however, just your view and not worth the violence mentally and/or physically that winning inflicts.