Did it matter?

All those rants, all those arguments, all that shouting, all the crying, all the feuds, all the revenge, all the suffering.

Did it change anything? Did it make you feel better? Did the other person feel better towards you?

If we accept others as they are, if we accept everything as it is, if we are at peace at what has already occurred, then there is no need for suffering for ourselves or others.

We can still have a view, we can still voice what we feel, it’s just we will do it without the emotional attachment.

Suffering is always a choice, emotions are the chemical turbulence within the body caused by our egocentric stories and thoughts. Once we react, we suffer.

Nothing matters unless we choose to make it so.


When expectation of something in return is the motivator of our kindness, then it isn’t kindness, it’s manipulation. Some manipulation is relatively harmless, well so it seems on the surface, and other is much more unkind.

If we act from our soul and true essence and perform an act of kindness simply because it brings us joy and where there is no expectation from the mind, then it brings us pure joy and it places no burden on the other person.

Manipulation from the mildest to the most extreme forms is damaging to the recipient and the manipulator and comes from our ego and from our fears. We believe that we need to be seen to be in control, it’s all about the inner self image and how we think we are perceived.

If we allows others to be as they are and if we are willing to accept everything as it is, then there is no need to want to control others and there is no need to create an image by acts of ‘kindness’ that are laced with burden.

Kindness is an act of love from the heart and soul.