Let me tell you

Telling others is easy, it makes us feel superior. Of course, the mind will trick us that we’re being helpful, but deeper, the ego is at play.

When the same things come around to our own actions, then, of course, there is a good reason to excuse and the mind tells us ‘well it is different’…again the ego is at play.

The solution is not to ‘tell others’ or to judge them in the first place. Most often, when people are explaining something or just want to get something out, they want to be listened to and they want to be understood. They want our empathy, not our advice or a regurgitation of our story, which of course, is not remotely relevant to them and it is just our ego starting up again…’well let me tell you how it was for me’

The other thing is, when it comes to what we do, no need to judge or excuse either, no need to tell ourselves. Be compassionate, be kind, give ourselves a moment.

Ego and its judgement of ourselves and others is the cause of a good deal of suffering within and for others too that we inflict it on.

Accept others and ourselves for what they are, seek the good in others and ourselves and realise we are all just wonderful human souls.

Advice, have it

The challenge with advice is the adviser assumes that others want what they want from life, see life through their lens and actually wanted their advice. The person often just wants another to understand them, to truly hear them and to be a light for them.

Best always to let others be, listen as in without evaluation and only offer an example of your life as perhaps something that might be inspirational. Telling others your view is rarely of any help.

We are responsible for ourselves…that’s all.