Don’t tell me

It’s easy to tell others and give them advice, our ego likes the feeling of importance, especially when we feel we know better or do something better than the other person. It gives us a feeling of superiority and that’s what the ego loves.

It is far harder to be the example and take our own advice, we then have a raft of internal excuses as why it wouldn’t work for us or there are other factors to take into account, so is is ‘just not that simple’.

The thing is, it is always better to be an example for others to follow, if they choose, than it is to tell others what they ‘should’ do. At the end of the day, while some experiences are similar, we are all on our own unique journey, we are all different, and what might work for us, isn’t necessarily what might work for another.

If someone ask directly for our advice, then we can give them our view, however, most people want support, empathy, understanding and someone to listen to them, not to be told.

We are all one moment away

We are all just a short step from our life being turned upside down, there are no guarantees, no certainties…everything can change in an instance. It can come from just a simple choice that leads to a big change.

Yet we can be cruelly judgemental of others who’s perceived fortunes have changed and are seen as no longer worthy humans because their struggles in life have lead to them becoming, say homeless or drug users or whatever other activity society might sneer at.

We are all worthy, no matter what, from the day we are born to the day we die. Our choices are not the measure to define us by. We all make them and we all make ‘good’ ones and ‘bad’ ones. It’s all very subjective anyway, who is to say what is right?. Yet as a society we are conditioned to judge others for their ‘bad’ choices, yet we’d excuse ourselves.

Judgement serves no purpose and is actually more a reflection of ourselves than the person we judge.

We are all one moment away from a bad choice…so best to accept others as they are and to leave others to be. Our choices are the only thing we control and again, it doesn’t make us a bad person permanently, if we make a wrong choice. We can start again in an instance and change, but it becomes harder once we have been labelled.