Learning reduces umming and ahhing

Umming and ahhing is something we all do, especially, interestingly, about things that are more important or take us from our comfort zone.

Some of you may have noticed that my domain for this blog has changed from philipdodson.wordpress.com to philipdodson.co.uk – a domain that I purchased about 3 years ago to make the very change I did only yesterday!! Still, 3 years of umming ahhing isn’t too bad, I’ve done longer.

Also, you may have noticed, along with the new domain, there is a new theme too and no more ads from WordPress, again something that I have been umming and ahhing about doing for about 3 years or so.

Note to self:- changing these two things was super easy and it took less than an hour in total to map the domain, upgrade the plan, change the DNS and choose and customise the new theme.

So why didn’t I do it before? Why three years of umming and ahhing?

Well, fear, yes FEAR, fear that it wouldn’t work, it would be too complicated, I’d make a mess of it and the site would be ruined.

It took me out of my comfort zone, I’d never done mapping a domain before. I had done a lot of reconfiguring WordPress sites etc, although, again after overcoming fear.

So what causes the fear? Lack of knowledge and the risk of looking like an idiot, yes I know, at 51 I should be used to that!

How did I overcome the fear? Learning.

Pure and simple, instead of going round and round the vicious circle of fear and umming and ahhing, I decided to simply press the button, read the instructions, read a few things from a Google search of ‘mapping sites for simpletons’ and hey presto it was easy.

Therefore, just pushing the button, like taking the plunge, saying ‘screw it, just do it’ (thanks, Richard Branson) and then learning. It saves years of umming and ahhing and frustration.

You can only learn if you try stuff and that’s it, just try.

Bastard, you stole my idea

Several times in life I have said ‘bastard, you stole my idea’, OK I’m lying…I used MUCH worse words than ‘bastard’.

Now, I have realised that not many ideas are unique anymore, in fact, it is almost impossible to have an idea that someone else has not.

Ideas are cheaper than ever. When I was born there were about 3.5 billion people, and wow did they have a shit load of ideas every single day, now there is 7 billion plus, it is off the fucking charts. Ideas come along all the time.

Ideas mainly end up in the graveyard with the person who didn’t act upon them. Now, we can not act on all our ideas, that would be exhausting.

However, before the auto-sabotaging machine kicks in, that is inside all of our heads stopping us from doing pretty much everything other than easy instantly gratifying things, we could choose to do some of the ideas that really resonate with us. Even just one or two would be a step forward and I am not talking about ‘I’ve got an idea, I can rearrange all my self-help books in alphabetical order’. Wow, great idea Philip, that will save me time in finding yet another book to read.’I’…great book there ‘Ideas, how to have more’ written by A.Smartarse.

What happened to me, until I realised it was my fault, is I would talk endlessly about doing something, I would over-think, almost eventually convincing myself that I was actually making my idea happen and doing something about it, really just hot air expulsion. Then when someone, who was no smarter or creative than me, actually built the thing I was fucking thinking about, I would go into a ‘shit storm’ meltdown and become a victim.

After many occurrences of this familiar pattern, the scarring led me to actually learn. Ideas don’t matter, just getting on with them is what counts.

The other thing is because something has caused you to be frightened of something, it will not go away by not doing it out of fear. It will only go away by overcoming that fear and doing it.

A few people have taken things that I talked to them about and were my ideas and have gone and done them without me. Are they shitbags? No. I just need to realise that my ideas may not be unique, but I am, and how I execute and make those ideas a reality and evolve them to become even better is what counts.

Setting better boundaries counts too, but at the end of the day getting on and taking the small steps each day to turn your idea into something and then making even better each day is a real safety feature to avoid others doing your thing.

So Philip, stop thinking, get on.