The choice about being right

Wanting to be right causes a great deal of suffering within and for the world in general.

‘I’m right’, of course, naturally, and so say 8 billion other human souls inside their minds. We can’t all be right all the time, it’s not possible.

What is ‘right’ anyway? A strange concept that our mind clings onto about us holding the truth over others.

The truth is always subjective and right or wrong do not matter, except to the ego and the collective ego. They are all just mythical mental concepts constructed by the ego to enable us to be superior to another.

The ego will protect itself and being right at all costs. Untold cost to itself and others is caused over being right or not. How many human lives have been lost and untold suffering to millions over someone not willing to be wrong.

Fearing of being wrong and the humiliation of it is very powerful and admitting that their view may not be right is too painful for most to contemplate. Better to continue the suffering.

If however, we accept that nothing is in fact right or wrong, it is all subjective, if we accept that our views are just views, a temporary mental construct based on our mind’s filtering of the world, then we can break our egotistical attachment and end the suffering for ourselves and others. It is the negative impact of the resistance, the emotions that occur by reacting to a challenge to our views that bring about the pain for us and others.

The only true thing is this eternal unfolding present moment, now, where our actual real life occurs, here we can accept all, see that there is no view that matters right now and enjoy just being. We can let go of the ego, let go of our views and enjoy peace within.

It’s a choice, there is of course, no right or wrong.

The acceptance of change

We fear change, yet the most certain thing in life is constant change. Everything or everyone is temporary, change like the seasons, the day, the moon, the sky, nature, the universe is inevitable.

We become comfortable in our discomfort zones, too scared to dip our toe in the cold water of something new.

We endure suffering, putting off or fearing change, and we stay stuck and even when something does change we spend endless energy and more suffering denying it. Pretending it isn’t or hasn’t happened.

Instead, if we accept that everything is temporary, a constant flowing river of different occurrences and whatever occurs that we can not control has already happened and therefore can not be reversed, then the suffering goes. We no longer deny it, peace comes and the fear of the uncertain future subsidies as we step away from our thoughts of the future and become at peace with this present moment.

We do not have to be happy about every change but accepting it brings peace within that enables us to find joy in life now instead of suffering within from the thoughts and fears of the endless changing life, world and universe.

Change is always an opportunity if we are at peace within and it is always fear and suffering if we resist it.