Getting back on track

We are all human, we are not robots, we are not perfect, we all make choices that with hindsight weren’t the best.

Our initial reactions and our habits often lead us to go off track. It is not that we set out to mess up, no one ever does. It is often when we have allowed anger or hurt or any combination of emotions to cloud our initial reaction to being the wrong choice.

This in itself does not matter, what counts is learning to recognise that we are going off track, recognise the triggers, is then the next step. What we can eventually learn is to handle the situations that trigger these reactions differently. Still, though it requires one more thing once we see the triggers or we recognise that we are reacting badly, that is to get back on track by letting go, by stepping back and changing behaviour, by changing our mindset, by changing the reaction. It is the vulnerability to be able to switch from one course, that we know is wrong, and relinquish to what we know is a better choice.

It requires us to move out of blame thinking, it requires us to step away from having to win, to not being seen as weak by stepping back from an angry reaction. There is nothing wrong with making a bad choice, the damage is done to ourselves and potentially others when we continue to go off track knowingly and stay stuck.

All of this is not easy to learn and requires empathy and patience with ourselves. But like anything that is hard in life, it’s what makes a difference and it’s what matters. For me, this is an ongoing work in progress as someone who has had a lifetime of being right and having to win.

True love and decisions

True love is unconditional.

When we come to making decisions, if we choose to look down a lens that is based on love, then we are very unlikely to go too far wrong.

Sure there is a time to make decisions based on rational logic, but those aren’t the important decisions in life.

Making decisions out of love is based on relationships with the people and if we focus on what makes them special to us, then it is easy to be unconditional.

Then it is easier to make a decision about our interactions and reactions.

It’s a challenge as we are conditioned very differently, we are taught to judge, to criticise, to look for fault, for blame.

Let’s choose to look for love.