The uncomfortableness of kindness

We do not know how to accept kindness.

We feel have to reciprocate.

We expect a burden.

So we resist.

We think there’s a catch.

Or we feel beholden to the kind person.

True kindness is always without expectations and comes from our soul, from our true essence and we do it because it brings us joy not for a return.

However, we are conditioned into the ‘one good turn deserves another mentality’ and therefore, there is much false kindness, that is really manipulating others as there are conditions and expectations.

This is why we have become uncomfortable with kindness.

The simple way to change this is by example, to only offer unconditional kindness from the heart, where it is our joy that is the focus and not getting something.

How did you speak to yourself today?

How did you speak to yourself today?

Did you say kind things? Were you patient? Did you praise yourself? Did you treat yourself like the you would others? Were you empathetic to yourself? Were you your number one fan?

Funny how we can be so unkind to ourselves and hurtful, and yet, shudder at thought of speaking in that way to other people.

If we let go of the story, the ego, the self-image, then there is nothing to measure against, nothing to be unkind to ourselves about. Comparison to our self-image allows for a feeling of not being good enough and therefore a need to be unkind with the voice within.

Always start with being kind to ourselves, every day.