I often write about being kind to ourselves and how we speak to ourselves is so important. We would never speak to others in the unkind way we often talk to ourselves in our heads. The beating up routine never, ever, ever, ever leads to a positive change and a great outcome.
However, being unkind is not the same as being honest with ourselves. We do need to be honest and not kid ourselves. It doesn’t have to be done in a mean way, it is best to do it in a constructive way, but we have to be realistic, as there is just no point in telling ourselves or believing we are doing or being something that we are not.
Once we are honest about where we are then we can make a plan to get to where we want to be, much better than being unkind or beating ourselves up because we are pretending to be something we are not and deep down being crushed by knowing it.
Don’t be unkind but be honest.
True kindness is something that is truly one of the most magical things about life and shows real humanity.
We have just moved into a new house about 8 months ago and on the first day, a lady appears in our garden with a cake and welcome card. She lives with her husband across the street from us.
She speaks to everyone, a rarity in our modern world sadly, she is not intrusive, but very friendly and helpful. Her husband did some carpentry work for us, another kind person, and as we get to know them, we realise how much other kind stuff she does.
Randomly, she’ll knock on the door and say ‘I’ve just baked some soda bread’ or ‘here are some scones I’ve just made’.
Today, my daughter is having some friends over to celebrate her birthday and she knocks on the door with a cake, a card, some scones and a little present.
The thing is she does it as true kindness as she has no expectation of anything in return, she does it because it makes her happy.
These small acts of random kindness make you feel grateful for being alive and to be human. It brings so much joy.