Other person’s shoes

When someone is angry, or rude, or frustrated or she/he behaves in a way that is not their normal way of behaving, instead of reacting the same towards them, perhaps we we could choose to seek to understand.

What is happening in the other person’s mind that is causing them to lash out, to react?

We always want to judge first, to see how that person’s behaviour affects our little story, our ego always wants to personalise it, to see it in terms of how does this affect me?

If we all choose to empathise, understand and be compassionate first, then we could all suffer less.

We could all learn to walk in the other person’s shoes and show kindness.

Don’t tell me

It’s easy to tell others and give them advice, our ego likes the feeling of importance, especially when we feel we know better or do something better than the other person. It gives us a feeling of superiority and that’s what the ego loves.

It is far harder to be the example and take our own advice, we then have a raft of internal excuses as why it wouldn’t work for us or there are other factors to take into account, so is is ‘just not that simple’.

The thing is, it is always better to be an example for others to follow, if they choose, than it is to tell others what they ‘should’ do. At the end of the day, while some experiences are similar, we are all on our own unique journey, we are all different, and what might work for us, isn’t necessarily what might work for another.

If someone ask directly for our advice, then we can give them our view, however, most people want support, empathy, understanding and someone to listen to them, not to be told.