Do to ourselves what we’d do to others

We would happily be kind, loving, supportive, compassionate and empathetic to a loved one, a close friend, even to just anyone.

Yet when it comes to ourselves we seem to struggle with this.

Think how we often speak unkindly to ourselves and then think of a person who truly matters to us, would we speak like that?

How we speak to ourselves is a choice, however, it has a huge impact on us. No one ever feels good about being unkind to themselves. Nothing is gained from it ever. So why not choose to be kind to ourselves?

Do to ourselves what we would do to someone who matters to us, as surely, we matter to ourselves.

If you haven’t tried it and you are fed up with anger, frustration and beating yourself up, try some love, kindness, understanding and putting an arm around yourself. After all, you have nothing to lose by trying.

Stop searching

Stop searching the world for what you may have done wrong, for what you may have failed at, for what you could have done better, or for any other shortcomings.

You will always find what you are looking for in others criticism or reactions or words.

Stop seeking permission, stop seeking validation, stop caring what others may think, be true to yourself and your values, set and respect boundaries of what is and isn’t acceptable.

Start belonging to yourself, stop searching to fit-in.

Look instead for connection with humanity through generosity, kindness, empathy, love, compassion.

As Brene Brown says ‘hold hands with strangers’ and experience collective joy and take our share of collective pain.