If we do not compare and have a system to measure against others how does our ego know whether we are better or not?
Imagine what a world would be like if we did not measure ourselves against others. A society where we did not use a score, a measure, a test…sort humans out against each other like lining up sticks of different shapes or lengths.
Perhaps we do not have to imagine it, we could try it.
There is always something wrong if you look for it. Especially if this is the filter that your mind uses.
Looking for something wrong yields wrong-doing always and that wrong enables our mind to react, complain, it allows our ego to be justified. It makes us feel superior, that is what the ego needs in its vulnerable state.
Yet, the pointing out or reacting to things that are wrong, and that is ‘wrong’ only in our minds, doesn’t make anyone else feel good. Interestingly though, the person who suffers most is the person who seeks the wrong-doing and does the pointing out, as they are the ones that are doing the judging. A judgement of others is, in fact, a judgement of ourselves.
It is a reflection of our own discontentment that leads us to manifest that in criticism of other people’s behaviour, with the hope, that catching others misdemeanours or mistakes somehow will elevate us above them and brings salvation to us.
The insecurity of the ego leads to continued pain and suffering, do not look for right or wrong in ourselves or others, accept them and ourselves for what we are and do not form opinions or judgements. This way there is peace within and within our relationships with others.