I am a smarty pants

When others mess up or try something risky or new, we often sit there and reassure ourselves that would never happen to us, we’d never make such mistakes, how didn’t they now that would happen, sometimes even laughing at them and thinking or even saying things like ‘who could be that stupid’.

It is not our judgements of what others can or can’t do or what they should know that will make a difference, it is what we are prepared to do ourselves that really counts.

It’s easy to be smarty pants as the observer but much braver as the doer to risk ridicule and failure. It is hard to step into the ring and face down the critics.

But the rewards of showing up are so much better than observing others.

It’s beyond our skins

What truly matters about us and other humans that we share this planet with is beyond our skins.

The outer shell does not matter, yet we are conditioned to care about how we look and what others might think of how we look. It has become addictive, compulsive behaviour and for some, it deeply affects their self-worth and mental health. For others it is a source of anxiety, for some, it’s abuse from others.

It consumes many of us on a daily basis, our exterior image that lives in our minds. We will do anything to protect it and avoid it being attacked.

However, the truly important stuff is contained within our skins, that is our kindness, our love, our empathy, our mind, our intelligence, our energy, our soul and so on. The real person is inside, the outside is a mask we put on for the world to protect the self-image.

The reason we judge others by colour, race, appearance etc is that it is taught to us and is not how we are born. We have to learn to judge.

We are taught to behave according to what our eyes see, not what we hear, feel, sense, or instinctively know. We are conditioned by society to look at the wrapper and not to see what is within.

Every single one of us at some point in our lives will have dismissed other people simply based on a judgement we have made about their exterior image which has been imprinted on us by society, what is attractive or not and so on. Just think how many amazing people we have missed by not going beyond their skins.

The magic is inside every single one of us.