Less or more important

When we meet someone, we tend to go through the less or more important measure. That’s often why we ask ‘what do you do?’. This is great in allowing our mind time to assess how we perceive this person in comparison to ourselves.

Then the mind decides what role we are going to play, after all, we play a role in every situation. When we are a sitting on a plane and a steward comes to serve us, we play the passenger (customer) role and they play the server role. We feel often that we are the more important in this case and the steward, he feels perhaps the less important and plays the role accordingly.

Test it, if you meet a famous person, for example, do we act or speak with the same voice versus when we pay for our groceries and talk to the checkout person?

We often assess this from physical appearances, then accents, gender, race and so on. We do not take a moment to pause and leave a space to consider, we are all the same, there are not more or less important humans. After all, within a certain time from now, everyone on the planet will just be ashes or dust, we all end the same and we all start the same.

More or less important is a mind construct and destructive to human interaction.

The challenge comes to stop the mind from comparing, once we can leave that space and not compare, then we are able to be ourselves and allow the other person, if they choose to, to be themselves too. Once we allow the role to kick-in we are acting from a perceived position of more or less important and that is of no benefit for you or the other people we interact with.

Hit and miss

Everything we do is a little hit and miss.

Sometimes we get it spot on and people get it and other times it isn’t as sweet. That’s life and we could to accept it instead of over-analyse it.

Once we accept that we will not please everyone all of the time, in fact, we only need to please those who really matter and that includes ourselves first, then life flows more peacefully.

The drain for many is the pursuit of trying to please.