I am doing #inktober again this year, where there is a daily prompt and you have to do an ink drawing and share it to Instagram.
Today’s prompt was ‘collide’ and that got me thinking that most humans ‘collide’ when communicating rather than meshing or melding or gliding together.
Communication, most of which is actually not verbal, is one of the things that humans are most challenged by, yet it is one of the main parts of our everyday life.
Communication is so ego driven from the filters in our mind that portray the story of ‘little me’ in our head and to the exterior world. This means that we rarely sense, see or hear the other person as we are so wrapped up in our story. The thing is, so is the other person, so we ‘collide’.
If we seek to understand and listen to other person, if we let go of our story and free ourselves from the ego, we can communicate with others without collision.
It’s easy to tell others and give them advice, our ego likes the feeling of importance, especially when we feel we know better or do something better than the other person. It gives us a feeling of superiority and that’s what the ego loves.
It is far harder to be the example and take our own advice, we then have a raft of internal excuses as why it wouldn’t work for us or there are other factors to take into account, so is is ‘just not that simple’.
The thing is, it is always better to be an example for others to follow, if they choose, than it is to tell others what they ‘should’ do. At the end of the day, while some experiences are similar, we are all on our own unique journey, we are all different, and what might work for us, isn’t necessarily what might work for another.
If someone ask directly for our advice, then we can give them our view, however, most people want support, empathy, understanding and someone to listen to them, not to be told.