We all have things inside us that are a burden and left buried or unattended, they simply don’t go away.
T hey can small everyday things we observe that conflict with our values or longer-term more deep rooted burdens that we’ve allowed to fester.
They burn inside us like an acid. They trouble us without realising. They affect how we behave and the longer we leave things that trouble us, the more harm it does.
Find a person who you trust, who will be non-judgemental, who will listen with empathy, who has unconditional love and you can be vulnerable with.
Then unburden yourself and ask them to listen and not to fix.
It’s like the stone in the shoe it doesn’t go away on it’s own, you have to get it out.
We fear to unburden, perhaps, as we haven’t yet found the right person to unburden to and we have not been clear about what we need from that person when we’ve found them.
Part of my ongoing journey of getting even better at stuff has involved, more recently, admitting to myself that I don’t know everything and I’m doing something about it. What!! You mean Philip you’re actually applying your learning! Well, trying to.
Back to the point. So Martha lent me this ace book by Austin Kleon called ‘Show your Work’ and I’m only just into the first few pages and I’m loving it.
He talks about a notion of learning in front of others. I love this idea. It’s part of what we’ve been doing for a bit at my coworking space with various groups, especially the Working Out Loud group that we ran.
Sharing our story and sharing our learning and then actually doing the future learning in front of others and sharing what goes well and what doesn’t is vulnerable stuff but one that is very liberating and inspiring, it allows others to help.
Receiving help is something I’m shit at, as I think it shows that I’m weak, more of bullshit gender conditioning that we all suffer.
It’s actually the complete opposite, it’s brave to ask for help.
So be prepared I’m doing all my learning in front of others going forward and I’ll need your help.
Learning out loud.