The answer to everything in our life can always be found in this moment now. If we are not conscious and awake, then we are unconsciously in our mind and its thoughts. That means we are focusing our energies on the memory of the past or a projection into the future, neither of them exist outside our mind, they are not real.
So whatever the question is, the answer is to be in this moment. Now is the only moment we can ever do, feel, or experience anything…everything else is in our mind, where there are no answers, only never ending thought and its resulting suffering within.
Joy and inner peace are contained in this moment and come from our soul not from the mind. We can only access true freedom, inner peace and real experiences now. Everything else is in the unconsciousness of the mind and does not matter unless we choose to be stuck in that state.
The easiest thing to do is fit in and the most challenging is to be our true self. Fitting in and being ourselves are nearly always at the opposite ends of the spectrum.
Fitting appears easy and we believe it will bring us happiness, however, the overriding of our true essence in order to fit in causes us deep suffering and conflict, it prohibits true happiness.
Not fitting in and being on our own unique path requires us to be in the ‘wilderness’ and that seems scary and requires us to be vulnerable and courageous. We have to overcome the psychological fears created by our minds and ego, the uncertainty, the risk, the fear of being isolated and unliked.
However, being our true self brings us the greatest peace within and long-lasting joy. Once we go down that path and commit to it, it becomes easier and easier. When we focus our energies on this present moment and let go of the story, the ego, the narratives in the mind, then it becomes easier for our true essence to shine.
Fitting in denies us the real life that our soul wants to have.