Keep it small

In life, you just have to start and anything can happen, we don’t know what and that’s the magic, enjoy that fact and do not think, the joy is always in the doing.

I you want to do something, don’t wait for the perfect conditions, they’ll never come. Don’t wait until you have more time, money, knowledge, training, experience, customers…and so on. These are all things that can be used by the mind as excuses to sabotage.

Just take the first step now.

If you want to sing then just sing, now.

If you want to paint pick up a brush, now.

If you want to tell someone that they matter, do it, now.

If you want to run, just run, now.

If your life isn’t what you want, just make a small change now, followed by another small change.

One small step now is all you have to commit to and then when that’s done commit to another small step and just keep repeating. Small steps are easy as they are not a threat or challenge, the mind doesn’t need to sabotage and small steps taken regularly over any time period amount to giant leaps.

Keep it small and just start without thinking…now. It’s all about small and now mixed with repetition.

Resilience is about flexibility

Building a habit is hard if the rules are so strict and so rigid that there is no room for a slip.

We make the rules for our own life inside our head. We are the ones who make ourselves feel guilty or useless for not doing something. We are the ones who decide.

If we are following a particular diet, or workout, or productivity routine, then we are the ones who set the rules and if we break them, we are the ones who choose to punish ourselves or not.

The thing is, whatever you do in life, there are no rules if you decide, other than the ones we impose upon ourselves. So if we have been doing something every single day for months and then we forget one day, it simply doesn’t matter unless we make it so.

The reality is, it is easier to build and maintain a habit for life if we allow ourselves the odd slip without the need to punish or feel bad. If there is only rigidity in anything, then it breaks, it becomes negative and resistance builds.

Resilience is about flexibility, being able to bend gives us the ability to spring back from a slip or setback. It is positive as we feel we can bend, there is no pressure.