Going back to the easy stuff

When we come across hard things we habitually tend to look for easy things to do instead.

We’ll convince ourselves we need a break, or that would be better tackled later when we’ll be ready. The thing is there never is a time called ‘ready’.

We will talk ourselves out of the hard challenges as it requires putting ourselves at risk and it is uncertain. We opt for easy. Easy is comfortable and brings instant gratification, a chemical feel-good fix inside.

The thing is when we opt for easy whenever we encounter hard things in the future we have conditioned ourselves to search for easy. It becomes a habit that leads us to shy more and more from risk, from challenges and it leads to the search for certainty and avoidance.

If we tackle the hard things, we create a different habit that starts to look for hard things and then we learn and get even better. Initially, it is tough, although 99% of the time the things are never anywhere near as hard as our mind will imagine them, however, like all habits it gets more rewarding and therefore sustainable.

We can always go back to the easy stuff afterwards when we’ve done the hard tasks. However, more often than not the easy becomes less and less appealing the same way the hard things do when we avoid them.

Going back to easy stuff fades. Avoiding hard things leads to nothing.

Successful practices

There are instruction manuals for almost everything except for us, human beings. The reason for that is we weren’t made in a factory and we don’t run on software. We are each unique.

There is no right or wrong way to do things, it’s personal not mass produced.

If it’s working keep doing it. If not, then learn, modify and carry on until it gets even better.

We can, of course, get sucked into buying certainty and instant fixes from a guru, but they don’t work. We’ll just have paid to know what works for someone else and that someone else isn’t us.

Successful practices and habits are self-made for us and take time to develop. But what else are we going to be doing, if it isn’t learning and getting even better at life?