Bad news

Our default reaction to any bad news is always to worst case scenario that will result and to what we could have done, or should have done, to avoid the bad news happening.

The future and the past is where the suffering is. The future is the psychological fear of our minds’s projections into the future, a thing that does not exist except for in our heads. Of course, the ego thrives on drama and is totally insecure, so it comes up with the worst-case scenarios. We can go from mild bad news to meltdown in a short space of time.

The past, of course, no longer exists, and it is an act of complete futility to even think that it can be undone. But it is a chance to start the victim role, poor me, or it was so and so, it’s their fault.

If we choose to accept that what is, is it, unchangeable, if we accept that it has happened and that what comes from it is unknown, then we can concentrate on now. The only time that we can act or think or do or ignore or whatever we choose to do or not do.

If our default reaction was ‘I accept what is’ then we are free of the suffering, we are not resisting or denying reality and from a place of inner calm we can deal with any challenge that occurs.

Most of our life nothing has actually happened, it is our fears of what might happen that create all the suffering.

Enjoy now, the problem-free moment that is always our real life. It does not mean that we do not take action, but what we do not do is suffer.

Numb it

When we numb the bad in our head or life with drugs, alcohol, gambling, food…in fact, any addictive behaviour, we also numb out the good too. So everything starts to seem bad. We do not enjoy life.

Equally, whatever we are choosing to numb doesn’t go anywhere from temporarily blocking it. It get’s locked back in until the numbing wears off.

When we resist within whatever it is that is troubling us then that brings us pain, so we choose to lock it away and hope it doesn’t escape and resurface, we hope it gets lost in the recesses of our mind. It doesn’t, it waits and comes back even stronger.

It is better to always accept what is, to welcome the bad and to let it be there without resisting it. This way we do not need to suffer the pain of fighting it. Equally, if we just let it be without the fight, and do not energise it, then it will start to dissolve.

Always the fight and denial coupled with numbing it to make it go away for a bit leads to the suffering within, both mentally and eventually physically. In addition, our suffering boils over into the exterior and others suffer too.

The numbing also stops us from making the conscious choice within to let something go and to be free from the pain. It is just a patch. We choose how to react to everything within and in the exterior world.

Surrendering to what is, allowing a thought to be, allowing the bad to be, letting go frees us to be at peace.