Acting against ourselves

Behaviour is often more to do with how we think others will perceive us than what we truly feel.

Yet, we are all doing the same, more worried about appearances to others than being authentic.

Being authentic is hard as we are conditioned to consider what others think and it leaves us feeling like we are in the wilderness when we don’t conform, no longer fitting in.

Mad how we condition ourselves as humans to act against our true selves to satisfy the imagined view of us by another.

You should do…

We all fall into this, telling others what they should do or think, often with aggression and force, especially if it is something that generates a lot of emotions within us. We become righteous and indignant with others who aren’t on our side.

‘You should vote’, ‘you should be this’, ‘you should be that’, ‘you should eat only this’ and so on. ‘We are right’ and that justifies our act of telling others.

The challenge with this strategy is that whether we are right or wrong, it is just our opinion and people are able to hold a different one without being told. It is no one’s place to tell others, especially as no one likes being told what to do or their opinion is wrong. It never warms people to another view and instantly creates a barrier.

Change comes from within and showing our example to the world and perhaps inspiring them to follow our lead.