Attached

Getting attached to our views and opinions only leads to conflict with others and suffering within. When our ego gets involved and we become attached to our views we become them and the ego will literally fight to death in the extreme to avoid being wrong. We no longer hear the other person, we go into a defence mode that means we will do almost anything to make sure we are right and the other is wrong…win at all costs.

When attachment is there then comes the reaction, the emotions, the anger and the victim/punisher mode towards others becomes activated if the other person is in disagreement. We feel it inside, we pump adrenaline and cortisol into our bodies and as it is a verbal battle, normally not physical, then the argument causes damage to us both mentally and physically as the chemicals are not released. All this suffering and cost to ourselves and others just to defend a simple temporary mental construct of our mind, a view.

It does not mean we can not have a view on something, it simply means to not make our views personal in terms of our story and not to attach anything to them. Then there is no need to defend anything or be right. When we accept contrary view points and others, when we accept that our views are just an opinion and that we do not need to be right, then we can present our view from a position of inner calm and then the other person will reflect that and will not feel the need to be defensive or react.

Peace within leads to peace outside and that can not happen all the time we are attached to our views and our ego.

Opinions, who needs them?

Opinions based on a concept are very different to opinions based on an actual experience.

Of course, opinions are just opinions and simply that, no one more valid than the other, no one more right than the other, it is only our ego that makes our view right and the other’s wrong.

However, if you have an opinion about something you have never seen, done, tasted, smelt, or experienced it is different to those who have experienced those things and that doesn’t make them right but it is worth listening to them. Opinions are about the past or the future, where experiences happen now.

The best thing ultimately is to find out for ourselves by experiencing them too, and then we can make our own evaluation. Until something is experienced then it is always just a mental concept and we can only ever experience anything now, in this present moment. If we concentrate on experiences now, our real life and this moment, then we have a lot less need for opinions of others or to form our own. There is no need to speculate or worry about this or that, we can just be alive and create experiences.