Better to be understood than right

When we respect and empathise with people who share a different viewpoint from us, we massively increase the opportunity for dialogue and discussion.

When we fear, judge and shame others for their views, we only create more division.

After all, opinions are just opinions, because we have them, it does not make them right or, in fact, wrong. They are neither, they are our set of temporary mental forms based on our level of consciousness and experiences at that moment in time.

Sadly, when we allow our ego to get attached to our viewpoint, then there is always the fight ‘to death’ approach to defend them at all costs. Then others will simply reflect that and no dialogue occurs only hatred.

When we are free from attachment, at peace within regarding differing views, then we can air ours without any need to be right. Strangely, others then mirror our light and let go of their attachment too. This is how human souls can communicate without fear and with love instead. It’s sharing our light and peaceful intention that creates a chance for discussion.

If we want to be heard we have to listen and understand others first and then let go of our need to be right. Better to be understood, than right.

Pointing the finger at others and prejudice

Ask yourself, do you go a day not judging another person for whatever it is? Do you walk down the street and label people based on nothing but our own prejudices, perhaps just for what they wear? Do you see or hear about a famous person, or someone you’ve never met, and pass a judgement on them? Do you hear second hand stories about a person and criticise them? Do you judge others, for whatever reason?

You are not alone, most humans are conditioned and habitually label and judge, mainly based on nothing but our preconceived opinions. It is a habit, we are taught it.

What if we challenged ourselves to stop judging or criticising others, perhaps initially, just for a day? What if we completed a day and tried another? Slowly, step by step unlearning our conditioning, perhaps we could then influence others by being an example for them to follow. What if we stopped blaming others? What if we choose to be accountable for our judgements?

Over time we could start to eliminate prejudice and far more effectively than any zealous shaming of other people’s choices, ones that if we are all honest, we make all the time. It’s funny how we can excuse our own judgements as valid and truthful, yet see others as unfair.

None of us are born with any prejudices, we are taught them and conditioned to have them. In order to reverse the conditioning, we need to be the individual who changes, who leads by example, who is prepared to be brave enough to be different. It does not happen by doing the very thing that criticism and judgement causes by criticising and judging others.

Do not judge others, inspire others by example, by stopping judgement, by stopping criticism, by letting go of our own prejudices.

It is by example we change not by pointing the finger at others and shaming them.