Unconditional love for ourselves

It’s important not to derive our self-worth from the exterior world. As we can not control the exterior world and therefore futile to base anything on it. It only brings us suffering as the measures we are conditioned to use always mean we feel like we are never enough.

We are born worthy and we die worthy, no matter what. It’s unconditional. That’s a fundamental thing for all human souls.

So often we look to what others say, or achievements, our status and so many other unimportant things to measure whether or not we are worthy, worthy of love. We suffer from the feeling of lack of worthiness and we feel we are not worthy of love.

Once we accept this we can change the internal narrative to kindness and unconditional love for ourselves. We are always worthy of love.

When we are true to ourselves, no compromise, then we release ourselves from the burden of the exterior world and our ego..we no longer need to seek exterior worth. As Brene Brown beautifully puts it ‘true belonging doesn’t require you to change who you are; it requires you to be who you are’.

The wilderness

What we do to fit in is go against our true self, instinct and essence. It is a condition of the mind that drives us to not want to be seen as different, exposed or at risk from ridicule or being ostracised. It is all driven by our ego and its fragility.

True vulnerability, as Brene Brown would say, is being able to brave the wilderness and be wholehearted. That takes a huge amount of consciousness and acceptance of what is to be able to truly be and to truly be our soul and pure essence. We have to be prepared to walk the other way to the crowd.

On the surface, it is easier to fit in. However, only in the short-term, as fitting in and going against our true self creates inner suffering and pain.

Once we become conscious and true to ourselves, the pain fades, and we become braver and no longer in fear of the wilderness that being ourselves requires.