What we do to fit in is go against our true self, instinct and essence. It is a condition of the mind that drives us to not want to be seen as different, exposed or at risk from ridicule or being ostracised. It is all driven by our ego and its fragility.
True vulnerability, as Brene Brown would say, is being able to brave the wilderness and be wholehearted. That takes a huge amount of consciousness and acceptance of what is to be able to truly be and to truly be our soul and pure essence. We have to be prepared to walk the other way to the crowd.
On the surface, it is easier to fit in. However, only in the short-term, as fitting in and going against our true self creates inner suffering and pain.
Once we become conscious and true to ourselves, the pain fades, and we become braver and no longer in fear of the wilderness that being ourselves requires.
I’m a huge Brene Brown fan, I love her work on shame, vulnerability, showing up and living a wholehearted life. I have just watched her Netflix show, if you get a chance then well worth an hour and have a tissue or two at the ready, as vulnerability is tough but worth it.
I have written many blogs on the subject around bravery, vulnerability and how showing up requires them both. Vulnerability is the opposite of weakness. Watching Brene today, I realised that there is one other factor to vulnerability, it is only possible if, like everything we do, we do it when we are conscious and in this present moment. We cannot be vulnerable in the past or in the future, we have to always be it now.
Otherwise, the moment you go into the mind, the mind will sabotage and put up the vulnerability shields to protect its ego. It will do everything to stop us exposing the real us.
Our inner spiritual essence is vulnerable, loving, and full of joy, the only way to show up is to be in the moment and conscious, to be authentically us. Our light that we show to others is there because we stayed conscious and showed up, we were willing to be vulnerable.