Critics

When we come from a place where we look for the good in what we do and see things how others see our work we start to get even better at what we do. When we start with kindness towards ourselves we change the internal narratives.

We have been conditioned to be our own biggest critic and that comes from the mind and its fears. Add to that the cultural norm of ‘you can do better’ mentality instilled in us from our formative years in order to satisfy the egos of others and to prepare us for a life of servitude to working for others. It creates a default reaction of self-criticism and it is a shield we put up to ‘protect’ ourselves from the perceived judgement of others. However, this behaviour only serves to affect our self-esteem and causes us to suffer within.

We never feel inspired or motivated after beating ourselves up.

However, if we choose to be our biggest fan instead then we are proud of our work and we grow in self-confidence and we feel good.

It inspires us to build on what we have already achieved and to look positively on what we have done not what we didn’t do or did badly in our eyes.

When we focus on what we did well we free ourselves from the negative energy of looking at what we think we did wrong.

Lastly, we are all already worthy of love and belonging from the moment we wake up in the morning to the moment we go to sleep, no matter what we did or didn’t do that day.

I am a smarty pants

When others mess up or try something risky or new, we often sit there and reassure ourselves that would never happen to us, we’d never make such mistakes, how didn’t they now that would happen, sometimes even laughing at them and thinking or even saying things like ‘who could be that stupid’.

It is not our judgements of what others can or can’t do or what they should know that will make a difference, it is what we are prepared to do ourselves that really counts.

It’s easy to be smarty pants as the observer but much braver as the doer to risk ridicule and failure. It is hard to step into the ring and face down the critics.

But the rewards of showing up are so much better than observing others.