What they think about me

Just stop, for a moment, right now, and realise how much of what we do on a daily basis is based on our mind’s imaginary projections of what other people think of us and how we imagine they judge us.

It subconsciously affects so much of what we do, say, eat, how we dress, the car we drive, the job we do, our house, and the list goes on. Our ego is so affected by this imaginary mind-construct of other people and their view of us.

Amazingly, nearly 8 billion people are constantly thinking about what others think of them.

What if we stopped imagining or caring about what others think about us?

How would that change our actions? What would we do differently?

The moment we become conscious of this is actually the moment we are in this present moment, it is how we break the association with our mind-streams and endless thoughts of how we are judged.

Consciousness breaks the chain of thought, it allows us to realise what others think doesn’t matter and it allows us to realise that we are who we are. We can accept ourselves and others too.

It could change your life forever and it’s a choice we can make right now.

Theirs is much better

Others work, whether it’s cooking, running, jumping, art, singing, dancing, writing, music…the list could go on, and on, and on, is better than mine.

When we compare ourselves to others, we always pick are a person we perceive to be better than us, then in a self-deprecating style, we say ‘theirs is better than mine’.

This hiding behind criticising ourself serves two purposes, one is an attention-seeking attempt, hoping that another will say ‘oh, don’t be silly, your ‘x’ is amazing’, this helps reassure our fragile ego, and the second, is a total protection of our fragile ego, by eliminating the risk of ridicule for claiming that our work ‘is the best’. We do not dare to step into the spotlight for fear of judgement or failure.

The fact is, all of it stems from the mind, and attachment to our ego and the story of ‘poor little me’.

Our work is neither the best nor the worst, these are just judgements of the mind and collective mind.

Our work just is. It only needs to be better or worse to serve the story and to allow us to feel inferior or superior. Others work is the same, neither good nor bad. All of this judgement cycle just leads to internal suffering, which then leads to suffering for others too.

Be happy in the doing of the work, enjoy the moment and be content with what is, seek pleasure from creating what we love in our soul not what we judge in our mind.

Of course, it’s lovely, of course, it’s amazing, of course, it’s beautiful. It is whatever we tell ourselves it is and it does not matter.

We are all our own biggest critic as a defence mechanism, instead, we could choose to be our own and other people’s biggest fans. Do from the soul and not criticise from the mind.

Love our work, love other people’s work too. It ends suffering and judegement.