We are all one moment away

We are all just a short step from our life being turned upside down, there are no guarantees, no certainties…everything can change in an instance. It can come from just a simple choice that leads to a big change.

Yet we can be cruelly judgemental of others who’s perceived fortunes have changed and are seen as no longer worthy humans because their struggles in life have lead to them becoming, say homeless or drug users or whatever other activity society might sneer at.

We are all worthy, no matter what, from the day we are born to the day we die. Our choices are not the measure to define us by. We all make them and we all make ‘good’ ones and ‘bad’ ones. It’s all very subjective anyway, who is to say what is right?. Yet as a society we are conditioned to judge others for their ‘bad’ choices, yet we’d excuse ourselves.

Judgement serves no purpose and is actually more a reflection of ourselves than the person we judge.

We are all one moment away from a bad choice…so best to accept others as they are and to leave others to be. Our choices are the only thing we control and again, it doesn’t make us a bad person permanently, if we make a wrong choice. We can start again in an instance and change, but it becomes harder once we have been labelled.

Unconditional love for ourselves

It’s important not to derive our self-worth from the exterior world. As we can not control the exterior world and therefore futile to base anything on it. It only brings us suffering as the measures we are conditioned to use always mean we feel like we are never enough.

We are born worthy and we die worthy, no matter what. It’s unconditional. That’s a fundamental thing for all human souls.

So often we look to what others say, or achievements, our status and so many other unimportant things to measure whether or not we are worthy, worthy of love. We suffer from the feeling of lack of worthiness and we feel we are not worthy of love.

Once we accept this we can change the internal narrative to kindness and unconditional love for ourselves. We are always worthy of love.

When we are true to ourselves, no compromise, then we release ourselves from the burden of the exterior world and our ego..we no longer need to seek exterior worth. As Brene Brown beautifully puts it ‘true belonging doesn’t require you to change who you are; it requires you to be who you are’.