Kindness to ourselves

Instead of saying to ourselves ‘I’m a good partner/wife/husband/father/mother’ or ‘I’m kind/loving/generous/supportive/thoughtful person’ we say bad things to ourselves.

We always find something to criticise or compare with others to beat ourselves up with.

Kindness to ourselves could be our default setting, if we choose.

We could be our number one fan instead of our number one critic.

How did you speak to yourself today?

How did you speak to yourself today?

Did you say kind things? Were you patient? Did you praise yourself? Did you treat yourself like the you would others? Were you empathetic to yourself? Were you your number one fan?

Funny how we can be so unkind to ourselves and hurtful, and yet, shudder at thought of speaking in that way to other people.

If we let go of the story, the ego, the self-image, then there is nothing to measure against, nothing to be unkind to ourselves about. Comparison to our self-image allows for a feeling of not being good enough and therefore a need to be unkind with the voice within.

Always start with being kind to ourselves, every day.