Critics

When we come from a place where we look for the good in what we do and see things how others see our work we start to get even better at what we do. When we start with kindness towards ourselves we change the internal narratives.

We have been conditioned to be our own biggest critic and that comes from the mind and its fears. Add to that the cultural norm of ‘you can do better’ mentality instilled in us from our formative years in order to satisfy the egos of others and to prepare us for a life of servitude to working for others. It creates a default reaction of self-criticism and it is a shield we put up to ‘protect’ ourselves from the perceived judgement of others. However, this behaviour only serves to affect our self-esteem and causes us to suffer within.

We never feel inspired or motivated after beating ourselves up.

However, if we choose to be our biggest fan instead then we are proud of our work and we grow in self-confidence and we feel good.

It inspires us to build on what we have already achieved and to look positively on what we have done not what we didn’t do or did badly in our eyes.

When we focus on what we did well we free ourselves from the negative energy of looking at what we think we did wrong.

Lastly, we are all already worthy of love and belonging from the moment we wake up in the morning to the moment we go to sleep, no matter what we did or didn’t do that day.

Beauty is an inside job

The world focuses on exterior beauty and we measure ourselves cruelly against others through the lenses of accepted standards of beauty in society.

Of course, within we suffer as we perceive that we are not beautiful. It is now so pervasive and corrosive in society that it has become as serious as life and death, that’s how powerful the collective mind is once we become attached to it. We become our thoughts.

Others are more beautiful and thus the untrue internal negative narratives and negative thoughts run repetitively leading to manifesting unfounded behaviours and unkindness inwardly to ourselves.

Truly beautiful people are those who have focused their energies on realising that we become beautiful on the inside and they manifest that beauty through their beliefs about what beauty really is. Those people then radiate that beauty and light on the exterior too. Not in a cosmetic or societal way but in a soulful and wonderful way. They are beautiful souls who realise that we are all truly the same within, equal and worthy in every way.

The external shaming and judgement of our ‘beauty’ can only make us suffer if we choose to align with the falsehood that beauty is an external thing. Visual external beauty is subjective and judgement based which are all created by the individual and collective minds. Thus they are all temporary, opinion-based whims that lack any soulful substance, yet we create our inner image based on such nonsense.

Shallow definitions of beauty accepted by the collective and individual minds and egos are a cause of suffering for us all. However, those who let go of those definitions and create beauty within first will spread that beauty in a non-judgemental and uplifting way to the world. The true beauty that is life is what we all have as an amazing gift that cannot ever be judged or evaluated.

When we stop looking in the mirror to see if we are worthy and beautiful and start to be kind, loving, compassionate, empathetic, understanding and patient with ourselves and simply be without evaluation of others, then we will feel our own beauty within. Becoming beautiful within ourselves through our beliefs and allowing our true essence to flourish manifests pure beauty inside and out without an agenda. We have detached ourselves from our ego and therefore we can become beautiful.

When we let go of the craving to be seen as beautiful by the minds of others and respect ourselves, honour our values, be true to ourselves, concentrate on the inside then we see ourselves as beautiful as a soul.

Beauty is an inside job. What if we started teaching to look within and create our beauty inside?