Listening without evaluation

Silence by Philip Dodson

A wise person said ‘the highest form of intelligence is to be able to listen without evaluation’.

We all seek to be understood and to be able to listen empathetically is a challenge.

The key to it is being able to be disconnected from our mindstreams and that requires us to be conscious and present in the moment.

When we are awake, we simply witness our thoughts and do not energise them, that means there is space to listen, without the mind wanting to reply, fix, show off that we know the right advice, tell our story, which the person we are listening to doesn’t want to hear. They want us to listen and understand them.

Listening is not a pause for us to prepare our next sentence, it is a space to hear and without judgement be fully aware of the other person’s words and to attempt to understand them.

Your dog

‘Cookie’ by Philip Dodson

Your dog has no opinions of itself or you.

That’s why it is always pleased to see you, always wagging its tail and is full of joy.

We as humans can also choose this, it simply means that we have to learn to observe and witness our own thoughts without evaluation. This will allow the judgemental thoughts to dissolve as we have not given them energy or acted upon them.

We can then see ourselves and others with no filters, wag our tails and be like the dog, free from the judgements of our mind.