Being you

The best thing in the world to do is be you.

Yet strangely it is the hardest to achieve.

It requires us to let go of our internal self-image that the mind will protect at all costs.

This requires taking a step off the highest diving board with no experience. But gradually it gets easier. It requires us to observe our mind and what that inner voice is saying without any judgement, simply listen to it.

Like a toddler throwing a tantrum, the less we react the more the tantrum subsides. So with the thoughts in our minds, which are primarily engaged with the past bad things that happened to us or invented bad things that are going to happen to us, if we leave them alone and simply listen, they subside as we feed them no energy.

If we give recognition to the negative thoughts of our mind and it’s constant effort to preserve this image we have created of ourselves, so it continues. Let go of this image and we can be truly ourselves.

It’s a hard path but one worth trying as real peace and happiness come when we are just us instead of being controlled by our minds.

The difference between unkind and honest

I often write about being kind to ourselves and how we speak to ourselves is so important. We would never speak to others in the unkind way we often talk to ourselves in our heads. The beating up routine never, ever, ever, ever leads to a positive change and a great outcome.

However, being unkind is not the same as being honest with ourselves. We do need to be honest and not kid ourselves. It doesn’t have to be done in a mean way, it is best to do it in a constructive way, but we have to be realistic, as there is just no point in telling ourselves or believing we are doing or being something that we are not.

Once we are honest about where we are then we can make a plan to get to where we want to be, much better than being unkind or beating ourselves up because we are pretending to be something we are not and deep down being crushed by knowing it.

Don’t be unkind but be honest.