Theories

We so often in life add 2 and 2 and make whatever the mind wants it to be. No matter what others say or do, we always end up with the same theory in our head…because that’s what our story within wants.

Once we have a theory, and it always how it affects us and usually we see ourselves as being the victim, then the mind will filter anything it sees or hears with that theory. So everything fits the theory. We find what we are looking for regardless of the reality.

Then, unsurprisingly, our theory quiet often seems to come to pass!

We manifest our own reality by attaching ourselves to the mind and its thoughts.

If we just accept what is and allow others to be, we can just be too. Then whatever happens, happens, which it will anyway whatever we think. If we remove the judgemental lenses, then we see people and things without the need to evaluate or fit it to our ‘theory’. The theory is just a fantasy projection in our head into the fiction that is the unreal future…the future doesn’t exist except in our mind.

Drama always finds more drama, victims always become more victimised and bad things always find more bad things. We can choose to have none of it if we step away from the mind and its theories.

You are a lair

If we label someone, we are branding them, we are damning them to a role or story that gives them not just shame but little room for change. It’s easy though as the mind needs to box everyone up, so it can instantly compare and judge them with ourselves and others.

If we say ‘you are a liar’ it is very different to saying ‘you made a wrong choice to tell a lie’. The second option does not judge them or label them as a liar, it is just us voicing our view of their choice.

Our society is driven by our mind and the collective mind’s need to label and blame others. It is a way of us being superior.

We may choose to offer a view of another person’s decision or choice but to label and judge is not for us to decide. No one is a liar, or unkind or hateful or whatever the label…they just make choices at that moment some we may see as good and some as bad, but that is subjective and depends on perspective.

If we accept others as they are and choose not to judge, that still leaves us a place to comment on their choice of behaviour towards us, without us suffering within from their behaviour, and it comes from a place of not judging them as a person. This allows the other person to be free from shame and labelling.