When we become our reaction then we see, hear or sense anything through the filter of the reaction.
We become unconscious within our mind and its reaction to the external world. We are unable to see others or the situation for what it is.
We deny what has occurred and continue to until we stop being the reaction and become conscious.
Before we react to someone or something, just pause before it consumes us and take a moment to breath and to be aware. That instant pause and acceptance allows inner peace and calm. We have become conscious and disassociated with our mind and ego.
We can then respond from a position of inner peace, calm and without any attachment to our response. The other person will then respond in the same way.
If we become our reaction others will mirror that.
Sure we can get ideas and get support from others. Of course, help from others can inspire us but that’s it, we have to do the doing. We have to commit.
Often though we look to the exterior world and others to provide us the answers to our problems that we actually already know the answer to. We hope they’ll fix us!
It is just we do not want to commit to the sacrifices needed to make those changes within. We are attached to our mind and its negative thought patterns so we are in a state of fear within. Also, we become the suffering, it becomes our story, our persona and therefore the ego does not want change and it will sabotage attempts to do so.
There is a strange comfort in our unhappiness and we fear making that first step to change.
We hide behind the things we can not control rather than take the steps ourselves.
Only we can know what the answer is for us and only we can make those changes. The first step is all we need to do and do it now. That way we detach ourselves from the fear of the mind and its sabotage. We free ourselves from thought by becoming in the moment and conscious. Thought can no longer frighten us.
Then we can take the next step and so on. One moment and one step at a time we can change anything we want. Each moment is a new start, a fresh beginning. However, once we start to think and look beyond now then we slip back into the mind.