We are what we are right now. Our level of consciousness is what it is.
We can, of course, make ourselves feel bad by looking back into the unreal past and think what we could have done better. But we didn’t, so why look back?
Then we can say ‘by this time, I’ll be…’ and then create stress and resistance by projecting into the unreal future, where most often lies psychological fear for us. We will believe that this and that will happen as a consequence of doing or not doing, or maybe what the weather might do, or the government, or some virus will get us.
The thing is, now is our real life and instead of thinking about our life, we can actually be life in this moment and do. The thing is it is always better to just do and not think.
Accept ourselves always for what we are now and not what we might have been or could or should be. That thinking always brings suffering. Enjoying life by creating experiences right now is why we are here not to spend time in pain within our thoughts.
If we label someone, we are branding them, we are damning them to a role or story that gives them not just shame but little room for change. It’s easy though as the mind needs to box everyone up, so it can instantly compare and judge them with ourselves and others.
If we say ‘you are a liar’ it is very different to saying ‘you made a wrong choice to tell a lie’. The second option does not judge them or label them as a liar, it is just us voicing our view of their choice.
Our society is driven by our mind and the collective mind’s need to label and blame others. It is a way of us being superior.
We may choose to offer a view of another person’s decision or choice but to label and judge is not for us to decide. No one is a liar, or unkind or hateful or whatever the label…they just make choices at that moment some we may see as good and some as bad, but that is subjective and depends on perspective.
If we accept others as they are and choose not to judge, that still leaves us a place to comment on their choice of behaviour towards us, without us suffering within from their behaviour, and it comes from a place of not judging them as a person. This allows the other person to be free from shame and labelling.