I get angry, it’s OK.
I get frustrated, it’s OK.
I cry, it’s OK.
I get fearful, it’s OK.
I suffer anxiety, it’s OK.
I get sad, it’s OK.
I get all kinds of emotions, it’s OK.
If we accept who we are, where we are at in our journey, our emotions, our thoughts, our level of consciousness and surrender to them all, then all of those emotions are ok, let them be. They have then space to be and to fade as all things do.
If we let them be, they pass, if we resist them, we become them.
It is better to step away, let go and not seek to ‘win’. There does not have to be a ‘right’ or ‘wrong’.
Winning is a game of the ego, where there is a position to defend and losing is a catastrophe for the fragile ego. This often leads to a ‘win at all costs’ approach…whatever that might lead us to do or say. We attach so much to winning that we are too afraid to let go.
The challenge with winning is the cost and the damage both short and long term for you and the loser.
In the short-term, winning may feel good, like a bar of chocolate does, but after there is the down side, seeing what it cost and how it affected the ‘loser’. That in turn has a negative affect on us.
It doesn’t mean you can not have a view, or say what you feel, it is however, just your view and not worth the violence mentally and/or physically that winning inflicts.