Don’t tell me

It’s easy to tell others and give them advice, our ego likes the feeling of importance, especially when we feel we know better or do something better than the other person. It gives us a feeling of superiority and that’s what the ego loves.

It is far harder to be the example and take our own advice, we then have a raft of internal excuses as why it wouldn’t work for us or there are other factors to take into account, so is is ‘just not that simple’.

The thing is, it is always better to be an example for others to follow, if they choose, than it is to tell others what they ‘should’ do. At the end of the day, while some experiences are similar, we are all on our own unique journey, we are all different, and what might work for us, isn’t necessarily what might work for another.

If someone ask directly for our advice, then we can give them our view, however, most people want support, empathy, understanding and someone to listen to them, not to be told.

Copy

Faces by Philip Dodson

We spend a great deal of our lives in awe of other people and trying to copy or emulate others, suffering throughout life within that we were never truly ourselves.

Each one of us is unique and the greatest thing is to just be, be ourselves.

Don’t be a copy, be you.