I could have…

I could have been…well, many things but I wasn’t. I could have been a contender as Marlon Brando said in ‘On The Waterfront’.

We make a choice in life and at that time there could have been many other options that we didn’t take.

The fact is, it is in the past and whatever route we took or take the outcomes are always uncertain.

Therefore, the could have, should have, what might have been thoughts we have is a waste of time. We only use them to beat ourselves when we feel we made a bad choice.

The good news is we can still choose a different path at any time and even if we had chosen the other path in the past it could have led to a worse outcome too.

It is better to accept where we are and the journey, learn and make new choices than it is to lament missed opportunities. There are no certainties so better to enjoy the journey we took not the one we didn’t go on.

There is only one ending

On our journey through life there is only one ending.

Yet we talk about things coming to an end all the time.

Yet really it’s a transition not an end and that makes our mindset more focused on the positive.

If we look back over any period and focus on what went right and what we learnt that can be taken forward to the next stage of the journey, then we do not have to see things in a black and white start and end.

Life is a journey and each stage contributes learning, connections and opportunities to get even better.