What will happen if I don’t listen?

There is always something to say, and we all have a unique journey and much to share with others. Our learning is unique to us as we are all uniquely different and what works for one does not necessarily fit another’s path. However, there are similar experiences that we all have and we can share learning and if wanted, we can share advice with others.

It is the unsolicited ‘fixing’ others type advice that is not what we want, we want people to understand us, not to tell us what happened to them. We are not interested and we want others to listen. We have to always seek first to understand, then to be understood. We have to be the first to stop the telling and do the listening.

Listening is not pausing to think about what we are going to say next. We have to listen to others in the way that we would want others to listen to us. Listening is something that we are poor at as humans, we are good at talking and mainly about ourselves.

There is one certainty, people who feel understood are more likely to listen to you and understand you. However, we can’t wait for them to listen, we have to be the one that takes the first step.

Whatever we want in life, we have to be the first. If we want more love, then we have to love more, if we want more trust, we have to trust more, if we want more hugs, we have to hug more, if we want more respect, we have to show more respect, if we want people to understand us, we have to understand more.

It is that simple, it always starts with us and we manifest the exterior world from how we choose to act. The world is how we choose to see it and is always a reflection of ourselves. We have to be brave enough to be the ones to change first.

Try it…see what happens, even within a few days.

There is an indigenous saying from North America ‘listen or your tongue will make you deaf’ and that is what will happen if you don’t listen.

Journeys and destinations

Following on from yesterday, yet more thinking out loud…what is the next step?

Do I share stories? Do I blog weekly? Do I start mapping out processes?

Do I stop thinking about it and allow the creativity to flow from the soul?

The thing is we all fear changing something, we fear taking away the armour and becoming vulnerable. We fear stepping out of the shadows. We are the director, producer and owner of our own movie, yet instead of being the lead role we end up sitting in the background being an extra. We are extras in our own film!!!

The best stuff always comes when we let go, when stop listening to the voices inside and outside our head. When we truly show up as ourselves and just be.

Take the plunge and follow the ripples and the current. See where it takes you. After all, it doesn’t actually matter.

I’m still on the fence…I need to jump off and pick a path, one step at a time the journey will unfold. I can change the path at any point but better to choose a path and take a step than to never walk the paths of life.

If I focus on the doing and not the destination then the joy of writing will return.

Journeys and not destinations is what life is.