Life is something we do with others and they can often be the catalyst and inspiration for our own journey.
However, each one of us has a unique journey and it is ours to discover, good, bad and average. It is our choices, it is up to us to be the one to find our path, learn our lessons, and work things out for ourselves.
No matter what others tell us or advise us, with good intention most times, there is still no substitute for treading the path ourselves.
The key is always to try to walk down the path even when it’s hard and scary. But we can never learn until we take the leap of faith and take our journey.
Often, we choose to stay stuck in life because it is ‘comfortable’. Even though we moan, complain and say out loud that we are ‘fed up’, ‘can’t stand it anymore’ there is a comfort in what we know.
Coming unstuck means leaving the ‘safety’ zone even if we are in discomfort there. It means leaving shore and heading off to a new safety zone, one which abstractly we want to be in, however, there is a bigger commitment needed to make that journey out of where we are, across the unknown, to a place we are not certain will be better than where we currently are.
The biggest change comes from uncertainty, from being vulnerable and brave enough to leave shore and head to the unknown. The alternative is staying stuck, easier it seems on the surface but long-term a million times harder to endure and to break, the longer we stay stuck.
Hard as the initial breakout is, the longer we stick at it the easier it gets. Of course, we may reach our destination and it may be no better, but we will have gained learning and we have built our bravery muscles to try another journey into the unknown.
Risk and uncertainty lead to new adventures and opportunities.
Staying stuck is a choice.