A big balled hyper-achiever

Over many years now there has developed this culture of having to be super productive, a doer, action taker, no talk all do and so on. If you are not on top of your game, then you are a loser. What app do you use for this and that? how many hours do you put in? being an achiever is everything.

It is almost how we seem to measure our worth and if you are not ‘on fire’ then that’s it the scrap heap awaits you. It is a very macho affair too, you need to have ‘big balls’.

Now I’m not suggesting we sit on the sofa all day and never do anything. The point I’m making is that it’s OK to talk and not do, it’s OK not to be super productive every moment of the day, it’s OK because we are worthy human beings regardless of what we do or achieve.

The fact is, it is far more important to be singularly focused on a purpose that matters. More important to do deep focused work for a block of time each day and get the priorities done, than it is to be a constant big balled hyper-achiever to claim the prize of most worthy person. We drown ourselves in ‘guru’ speak and spend endless hours measuring just how much we’ve done in the ‘BIG is beautiful’ tasks Olympics.

We get sucked into the ‘productivity’ vortex and spend most of our time doing stuff that does not really matter in order to fit in.

Productivity, like a hamster on a wheel, is the lifeblood of the industrial machine that cares only about squeezing more to make more profit for the owners.

One purpose, one focus, get what really matters done and then spend all the rest of the time talking, walking, sailing, painting, with friends, family…doing stuff that creates memories that matter. No one will sit at the end of their journeys and say ‘if only I’d done more tasks and worked longer’.

Two kinds of credibility

There are two kinds of credibility.

If we say out loud to the world that we are going to do something and then we don’t, then that’s kind of OK once or twice, but do it regularly and we start to become less credible as time goes on. To the point that we are no longer trusted to deliver.

There is a second kind of credibility that is much more damaging and that is the credibility that we have inside our heads. So whether we announce it to the world or we say it inside our own heads, the damage is just as bad if we continue not to do the things, we tell ourselves or others, that we are going to do.

Repairing our credibility with others has to come from repairing our own inner self-belief and that is a hard task.

Showing up is not always easy, there are many factors involved and the lesson perhaps is to volunteer for less and make sure that the one thing we do say we’re going to do, we do. Furthermore, perhaps best to say nothing at all and just get it done. After all, we can then say we have done it instead of I am going to do it.

The underlying problem is our society measures our worth or value by what we achieve/do and therefore there is far too much pressure to be constantly doing things in order to fit in and to be a worthy person. Hence we often over promise or over volunteer.

Credibility starts within us.