The conundrum of fitting in

The easiest thing to do is fit in and the most challenging is to be our true self. Fitting in and being ourselves are nearly always at the opposite ends of the spectrum.

Fitting appears easy and we believe it will bring us happiness, however, the overriding of our true essence in order to fit in causes us deep suffering and conflict, it prohibits true happiness.

Not fitting in and being on our own unique path requires us to be in the ‘wilderness’ and that seems scary and requires us to be vulnerable and courageous. We have to overcome the psychological fears created by our minds and ego, the uncertainty, the risk, the fear of being isolated and unliked.

However, being our true self brings us the greatest peace within and long-lasting joy. Once we go down that path and commit to it, it becomes easier and easier. When we focus our energies on this present moment and let go of the story, the ego, the narratives in the mind, then it becomes easier for our true essence to shine.

Fitting in denies us the real life that our soul wants to have.

It’s all lies

Inside our bubble of the same opinions we do not hear the voice of the other bubble.

This is where the human race is right now, in multiple bubbles not hearing a word of what anyone says if they aren’t from our bubble of opinions.

Fear of even being slightly contaminated by another contrary view leads the members of one bubble to wage hate-fuelled war on the other contrary group.

There is no longer any open respectful debate just hatred of anything different to our view.

The bubble cries out ‘it’s all a lie’ and where does this leave human race?

Fearful, hateful and lacking any compassion, empathy or understanding of our fellow human.

Bursting the bubble takes courage and vulnerability, we have to let go of our egos and listen to the others and understand them first, before we have any chance of them wanting to understand us. We have to be brave enough to be first and not wait for others to burst their bubble.

The alternative is staying stuck in our hate-filled bubble echoing only our own voice.