We can choose to accept that people are uniquely different and there is no need to judge them or form opinions of them. Be at peace with it.
Or, we can spend a lifetime of suffering frustration, anger, hate, jealousy, annoyance, and so on, because they have a different view, language, opinion, they do things another way to us, they eat, dress, speak, look different. They do not fit into our conditioning of the world, or lens does not allow us to see the good in them. We are never at peace.
Different is exactly that, different, there is not a right or wrong, we are all unique souls and if we allow that to be, if we embrace others as what they are, then we will have a life of peace.
What we think others need, is actually what we need.
When we judge others, we are really judging ourselves.
When we criticise, judge, compare, even well-intentioned thoughts of helping others, it is actually a reflection of ourselves and our needs. Instead of looking inwardly, our egos make us look outwardly to place our own frustrations on others or to build a feeling of superiority to make us feel better. So we can say that ‘I know best’ or ‘they’re doing it wrong’.
If we all focus on helping ourselves, and not judging, criticising, or ‘helping’ others, then we expand and are able to be an example and bring our light to others, not our interference, coercion or negativity. We have no right to assume we know others inner story or that we know what is best for them. We do not own others, we are all equal souls and can content ourselves with just being and letting others be.
Helping ourselves is a positive thing for ourselves and others, judging or forming opinions of others is only damaging and negative for ourselves and others.