Helping others

What we think others need, is actually what we need.

When we judge others, we are really judging ourselves.

When we criticise, judge, compare, even well-intentioned thoughts of helping others, it is actually a reflection of ourselves and our needs. Instead of looking inwardly, our egos make us look outwardly to place our own frustrations on others or to build a feeling of superiority to make us feel better. So we can say that ‘I know best’ or ‘they’re doing it wrong’.

If we all focus on helping ourselves, and not judging, criticising, or ‘helping’ others, then we expand and are able to be an example and bring our light to others, not our interference, coercion or negativity. We have no right to assume we know others inner story or that we know what is best for them. We do not own others, we are all equal souls and can content ourselves with just being and letting others be.

Helping ourselves is a positive thing for ourselves and others, judging or forming opinions of others is only damaging and negative for ourselves and others.

For ourselves

We focus a great deal about helping others, do something kind and being generous.

This is a certainly a good thing and the world needs plenty of it.

What needs to happen first, though, in order to be there for others, is to be there for ourselves first.

What did you last do for yourself? Do you take time out every day for you? When were you last kind to yourself? When did you last say ‘well done’ to you? When did you give yourself a break not just physically but mentally too?

Start with you.