Relationships, simple really

If we want to enjoy a successful relationship with another person we need to learn to accept the other person as they are… completely. We are not here to change others.

We need first to understand them, before we try to be understood. They want someone to listen not tell them, like all of us, but we have to listen first.

Don’t wait for them to say sorry, do not punish or be a victim. Be ourselves 100%. Be first and let go of our story and ego.

Love them unconditionally, which is what love from the soul always is. Not the neediness of the mind.

We need to make ourselves happy and not rely on them. Free them from that burden and ourselves from the disappointment our expectations will always bring.

Expect nothing of them and simply enjoy them for who they are.

The route to success is always found in our hearts and souls, it’s love pure and simple. That’s all.

Unconditional love for ourselves

It’s important not to derive our self-worth from the exterior world. As we can not control the exterior world and therefore futile to base anything on it. It only brings us suffering as the measures we are conditioned to use always mean we feel like we are never enough.

We are born worthy and we die worthy, no matter what. It’s unconditional. That’s a fundamental thing for all human souls.

So often we look to what others say, or achievements, our status and so many other unimportant things to measure whether or not we are worthy, worthy of love. We suffer from the feeling of lack of worthiness and we feel we are not worthy of love.

Once we accept this we can change the internal narrative to kindness and unconditional love for ourselves. We are always worthy of love.

When we are true to ourselves, no compromise, then we release ourselves from the burden of the exterior world and our ego..we no longer need to seek exterior worth. As Brene Brown beautifully puts it ‘true belonging doesn’t require you to change who you are; it requires you to be who you are’.