What is love?

Love is something that comes from the soul, it isn’t an emotion. Emotion, Greek for turbulence, are the chemical manifestation in the body of what is happening our egoic mind.

As a true human soul our pure essence is love, we are love. Therefore love is not conditional it is unconditional as it is our default operating system as a spiritual being.

Neediness and infatuation are what the mind tricks us into to believing love is. We meet someone, there is a physical infatuation, their story matches ours and two minds fall in ‘love’. This then develops into a longer relationship of dependency, neediness and place a burden on the other to provide happiness and fulfilment. Of course, this works all the time the neediness is served.

Then the physical infatuation wanes, the other expectations aren’t met and the two minds that feel in love breakdown and issues happen. Often leading to one the minds seeking fulfilment through another, only to find that inevitably the same challenge occurs sometime later. The lack of happiness then leads to deny ‘love’ to the other and often involves punishment.

Love can never be taken away. Love is totally without conditions and when we allow our light from within to shine and we disassociate with the egoic story and let go of the neediness the love will always previal.

It’s important to realise that neediness and dependency, what we mistake as love, is always destined to bring suffering for ourselves and the others within our relationships.

We are love not the story in our mind. We are always worthy of love from ourselves as we are all born worthy as a human soul and we end our physical journey as that same soul. Love is not defined by anything.

Relationships, simple really

If we want to enjoy a successful relationship with another person we need to learn to accept the other person as they are… completely. We are not here to change others.

We need first to understand them, before we try to be understood. They want someone to listen not tell them, like all of us, but we have to listen first.

Don’t wait for them to say sorry, do not punish or be a victim. Be ourselves 100%. Be first and let go of our story and ego.

Love them unconditionally, which is what love from the soul always is. Not the neediness of the mind.

We need to make ourselves happy and not rely on them. Free them from that burden and ourselves from the disappointment our expectations will always bring.

Expect nothing of them and simply enjoy them for who they are.

The route to success is always found in our hearts and souls, it’s love pure and simple. That’s all.