Inner acceptance of ‘what is’ does not need to be confused with outward acceptance.
Accepting what is and others as they are and as this moment is, enables us to be at peace, however, it does not mean we agree with it or are happy about it. Of course, we might be, but accepting inside is not agreement. It just means we are making a conscious choice not to suffer from what is, something that can not be change.
If we then choose to voice our view or act, it is from a place of calm and free from egoic attachment to the outcome, and again, removing any suffering from other peoples’ reactions.
Surrendering to what has already occurred and what other people are is not being a ‘doormat’ or weak, it is strength to be able to free ourselves from the resistance to what we can not change.
Inside is what counts as it is the only thing we can control.
Once we label ourselves as something…a leader, dominant, or a follower, an organiser, an alpha male/female, a rebel , a good person, a bad person, a whatever, it doesn’t matter what the label is, then we become that role. It is a role created by our mind and its ego. We often have many roles, a work mask, a home mask, there are many to wear.
We are not any particular thing, we are just a ball of energy, a beautiful human soul, housed in a physical carnation. We do not need to be one role or another, we just need to be.
Once we associate with the egoic labels and its creations, then the suffering comes, then we have to be a certain persona and defend its status against others, we then have to act out the role and all the stress that creates maintaining it so others do not judge or threaten it. There is an internal pressure created by the ego to play out these roles and maintain them for fear of what others might think if we slip up.
Life in this moment, just simply being our true essence is without all the drama and suffering of having to act out, maintain and defend a role. We are just a simple human soul enjoy this now moment.