When we place expectation on ourselves and others, we place a burden and the greater the expectation, the greater the burden and the greater the disappointment for us when we or others do not meet the expected level.
Equally, when we do something with a motive attached, say we open the door solely to look good and then expect a ‘thank you’ only to be disappointed by not getting it. We do things with strings attached.
If we act from our soul, from our feelings, and we simply be, then we suffer no burden within or disappointment. We equally spare the burden for others too. If we set no expectation of ourselves and others, we are free.
Just doing what we feel without anything attached is the best way to enjoy a guilt, an expectation and a burden-free life.
The challenge with attachment to our opinions is it means we have to defend them. If we are adamant internally that our opinion is right no matter what, then our ego is at stake and we have to defend them to the ‘death’. Well actually, very often it is literally to the death. This damages our relationships with others and causes us suffering within.
Opinions are just a view, a temporary mental form, and there is no right or wrong and if we accept that they just that and place no personal attachment to them, then there is no need to fight, no need to resist any other view and no need to experience any negative emotions when others do not agree with our view.
Surrendering to acceptance of things is not weakness, it is a strength, that you can let go and accept others and their views for what they are. It doesn’t prohibit ourselves from expressing our views whenever, however, it just stops the pain and suffering of defending our views at all costs and stops affecting our relationships with others.