The challenge with attachment to our opinions is it means we have to defend them. If we are adamant internally that our opinion is right no matter what, then our ego is at stake and we have to defend them to the ‘death’. Well actually, very often it is literally to the death. This damages our relationships with others and causes us suffering within.
Opinions are just a view, a temporary mental form, and there is no right or wrong and if we accept that they just that and place no personal attachment to them, then there is no need to fight, no need to resist any other view and no need to experience any negative emotions when others do not agree with our view.
Surrendering to acceptance of things is not weakness, it is a strength, that you can let go and accept others and their views for what they are. It doesn’t prohibit ourselves from expressing our views whenever, however, it just stops the pain and suffering of defending our views at all costs and stops affecting our relationships with others.
We cling on, and cling more, and cling on some more, and we hope that by resisting what is, that the outcome will change…like magic, we can alter the past!
It won’t and we can’t…it is always what it is now.
Our resistance to that creates negativity which fights against the reality of what has already happened, or most often, we fight what other people are doing, thinking etc. It causes us great pain, suffering, stress and boils over to affecting the people around us too. We want to control what we can not control, like trying to stop the waves of the ocean from coming. This very resistance only continues creating what we do not want.
If we let go and surrender to what is, accept, it will not change what has occurred or other people, but what it removes is our suffering and pain inside. Internally, we are then at peace, we accept the reality of what others are doing and we allow them to be and we accept the reality of what has already occurred and allow it to be. Then we transmit positive vibes, instead of negativity, and then the ‘magic’ occurs, we attract what we want, not continue to create what we don’t want.
When we let go and focus our positive energy on now, the real and only moment, then we can always achieve or affect anything right now. We are able to manifest what we want in this moment once we are free from resistance and clinging on to our mind and its story.