Acting against ourselves

Behaviour is often more to do with how we think others will perceive us than what we truly feel.

Yet, we are all doing the same, more worried about appearances to others than being authentic.

Being authentic is hard as we are conditioned to consider what others think and it leaves us feeling like we are in the wilderness when we don’t conform, no longer fitting in.

Mad how we condition ourselves as humans to act against our true selves to satisfy the imagined view of us by another.

Reactions to events

How much of our reactions are based on conditioning and how we want to appear to others? How much of what we say publically is to fit-in?

It must be as we are selective as a society about what seems to matter.

We would protect a 200-year-old building, yet trees of that age can be chopped down every day. Tragedies in some countries matter and in others they don’t. Terrorist if from one background, freedom fighter or plain crazy ‘whack-job’ from another. A terrible shooting in one country leads to prayers and changing social media profile pictures to that country’s flag, if it happens in the less important country, it isn’t even reported. A person has offered 100M Euros to repair a church but there are poor and starving people on the streets.

It seems we have a ‘how do I appear good in front of others’ filter or a ‘from the right background/country/race’ filter on what matters in the world.

We are all humans, we all matter, there is no life more important than another, we are the same. Also, what others think about us is not relevant, we can choose to react how we wish to, without the need to feel ostracised or feeling we have to fit.

Things are not black or white, with or against, yes or no. There are no right or wrong, it is a personal opinion.