The conundrum of fitting in

The easiest thing to do is fit in and the most challenging is to be our true self. Fitting in and being ourselves are nearly always at the opposite ends of the spectrum.

Fitting appears easy and we believe it will bring us happiness, however, the overriding of our true essence in order to fit in causes us deep suffering and conflict, it prohibits true happiness.

Not fitting in and being on our own unique path requires us to be in the ‘wilderness’ and that seems scary and requires us to be vulnerable and courageous. We have to overcome the psychological fears created by our minds and ego, the uncertainty, the risk, the fear of being isolated and unliked.

However, being our true self brings us the greatest peace within and long-lasting joy. Once we go down that path and commit to it, it becomes easier and easier. When we focus our energies on this present moment and let go of the story, the ego, the narratives in the mind, then it becomes easier for our true essence to shine.

Fitting in denies us the real life that our soul wants to have.

Doing the opposite to what brings us joy

We always feel most at ease and peace inside when we are truly ourselves, when we are not wearing any hats, when we are not acting out any roles, when we are not trying to fit in. We feel most at ease when we set our boundaries, when we do not justify ourselves, when we do not seek approval or permission.

Amazingly we spend most of our lives doing the opposite of what brings us peace and joy. We are always trying to fit in, trying to please others, acting out roles, seeking approval and permission and fearing being our true self in case we offend someone.

Madness given we only get one shot at this human experience on this rock.

Just be you and enjoy the journey and the ones who are the true beings will get you as you are and those who don’t, well they have a different journey to yours.