The challenge with attachment to our opinions is it means we have to defend them. If we are adamant internally that our opinion is right no matter what, then our ego is at stake and we have to defend them to the ‘death’. Well actually, very often it is literally to the death. This damages our relationships with others and causes us suffering within.
Opinions are just a view, a temporary mental form, and there is no right or wrong and if we accept that they just that and place no personal attachment to them, then there is no need to fight, no need to resist any other view and no need to experience any negative emotions when others do not agree with our view.
Surrendering to acceptance of things is not weakness, it is a strength, that you can let go and accept others and their views for what they are. It doesn’t prohibit ourselves from expressing our views whenever, however, it just stops the pain and suffering of defending our views at all costs and stops affecting our relationships with others.
We always seem able to find someone to blame, someone to judge, something to hate, something or someone to be angry about, we seem able to criticise, to manipulate, to seek attention from others, to take, to look for the worst, to seek revenge, to be mad about…to fight all and everything, after all we all hate ‘injustices’. But these are not real injustices, they are the injustices that the inner victim in all of us create and we then take it out on the world.
Perhaps, we could just be and be content with what we are, where we are, what we have and our current situation in life. Then we will find love, joy, kindness, gratitude, and meaning.
The moment we accept others truly for who they are, that means everything, not just some bits, and accept things we can not control for what they are, as in the world and other people and what they do and say. Then we are able to stop resisting everything and we are able to dissolve hate, judgement, anger, jealousy, meanness, criticism, revenge and all the negative things that our mind’s resistance creates. We no longer give it the attention and power it needs to keep going, the fighting creates the negativity.
Stop fighting things and be content…our individual world will change instantly.