Condemning others

Our behaviour at any one moment in time is based on our level consciousness at that moment. It can’t be any other way. That’s the same for others.

That does not mean that our choices or others are always the choices we would make in a different moment. It does mean that we are good or bad, it is just what we are at that moment.

You could choose to lie but labelling someone a liar for a single choice is condemning them to be always bad, always lying and no room to ever change.

It does not mean either that it is an excuse to behave in an unkind way to others and once we are conscious of our bad choices then we can not keep doing something regardless of its consequences.

However, we all make choices that a later version of ourselves may not make and we may become more conscious. That doesn’t mean we can judge others for what we perceive to be wrong choices.

Let others be and accept them and equally, let ourselves be and accept what is now as what is.

Every new moment is a chance to change our behaviour to what we feel is the right choice for us now. We are not what we or others label us.

Yet we condemn others to a labelled set behaviours, judged by us, that they are stuck with and we expect them to be able be ‘better’. Yet we excuse our own poor choices.

We are all on our journey, we rarely know what is happening in the world of the people we so easily judge, and condemn forever, as that person.

We are not our choices and behaviours, we can change in an instance. We learn as we go along our path, the universe provides us all with challenges and lessons to learn from.

Allow others to face theirs and learn without writing them off. We are all just human souls on journeys of learning.

Too many coats on the peg

When we are born we are given a name, an identity is born, and from that moment on, it is like a coat peg that we and others hang coats on. The coats are how we see or others see us, the role that we play and it is the start of our ego that we and others contribute to. Our identity is constantly being shaped and formed by the mind and the comments of others.

So begins the suffering that our mind and all its stories create for us within. It shapes all that we do.

We build up all these ‘Walter Mitty’ style characters that we are going to act out in our mind or in reality. In turn, these are all part of that mental angst that not being our true self creates.

The thing is all these coats on the peg weigh heavy on us and they hide our soul and true essence from the world. The weight becomes too much to bear sometimes.

Naming us is the start of creating the story of ‘Mary’ or ‘John’ or ‘Maria’ or ‘Philip’.

However, if we step away from the mind and its stories, if we stop seeing ourselves as the mind and its ego, if we no longer see ourselves as the name and its story, then the coats start to fall off the peg until our true self is revealed to the world. Our soul can shine, free from all the coats on the peg that hide it.