Too many coats on the peg

When we are born we are given a name, an identity is born, and from that moment on, it is like a coat peg that we and others hang coats on. The coats are how we see or others see us, the role that we play and it is the start of our ego that we and others contribute to. Our identity is constantly being shaped and formed by the mind and the comments of others.

So begins the suffering that our mind and all its stories create for us within. It shapes all that we do.

We build up all these ‘Walter Mitty’ style characters that we are going to act out in our mind or in reality. In turn, these are all part of that mental angst that not being our true self creates.

The thing is all these coats on the peg weigh heavy on us and they hide our soul and true essence from the world. The weight becomes too much to bear sometimes.

Naming us is the start of creating the story of ‘Mary’ or ‘John’ or ‘Maria’ or ‘Philip’.

However, if we step away from the mind and its stories, if we stop seeing ourselves as the mind and its ego, if we no longer see ourselves as the name and its story, then the coats start to fall off the peg until our true self is revealed to the world. Our soul can shine, free from all the coats on the peg that hide it.

Best to choose nothing

What bothers us and causes us suffering is what we choose to resist and not accept.

If we accept others as they are and if we accept what has happened has happened, then we can be at peace within.

It does not mean that outwardly we can not voice a difference of views or say that something isn’t right about a situation but it will come from a place of peace. Additionally, if we are free from our mental attachment to what is bothering us, then we will feel no need to defend our position at all costs. Most of the suffering from denying what is comes from our fight and resistance to what is and this come in the form of outward confrontation with others.

This confrontation not only causes suffering for us but for others too. We take our inner turmoil and spill it out onto others.

So if we are in a place of inner acceptance to all that is and what is, then we can be at peace inside and this will greatly benefit our mind, body and soul and will share that light with others.

We choose what will bother us, best to choose nothing.