It’s our resistance to things that cause the pain.
Even more so when we are aware of something, we know that’s not what we want and then we get angry about being angry, or frustrated about being frustrated, or sad that we are sad and so on. We fight the reaction, we resist the feelings, we try to squash our emotions.
If we give space for our feelings, thoughts, emotions and let them be, just observing and letting it be there, then there is no resistance, no fight and they dissolve without more emotion, thought or reaction.
If you walk away from an argument, if you resist a fight, if let go even when you do not agree, is that weakness? Or is, in fact, the very opposite?
We see arguing, fighting, being opinionated, aggression, dominating others and so on as strength. We see being ‘in-charge’ as leadership. Perhaps leadership is actually setting an example for others to be inspired by.
It is the weakness of the mind and the vulnerability of our self-image that causes us to fight, argue, become aggressive, behave badly to defend the things that do not matter and are in fact not real, but a fabrication of our minds. Minds fighting with other minds verbally and physically, and to what ends? A winner and loser. In fact, all parties suffer, there never needs to be a winner or a loser.
What if we could see walking away as a strength, would we have a better world?